In Michael Webb's weekly Lovemaking Tips of the Week e-magazine, he regularly features a question from a subscriber along with his reply.  Many times those letters/answers invoke others to share advice as well.  Here is a place where we will "replay" some of those questions, along with answers from Michael, his panel of sex experts and his loyal subscribers. 

Newer questions will be added to the top of this column.

 

Dear Michael -

I need some help I married this woman who is younger then me she is great in bed but she says she can be a lot better if I talk dirty to her tell me some of things I should say to her. I love her dearly and I want to make the happiest that I can. how to talk dirty

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Dear Michael -

We have an important question and hope you can answer or refer us to a trustworthy and reliable source. Someone informed us an interesting but disturbing information. We need to know if this statement is true….

1. A man must masturbate or release his sperm once or twice a month to prevent prostate cancer.
2. If a man does not have sex or release his sperm within 3 to 6 months, he will have a higher chance of getting prostate cancer.

can masturbation helps prevent cancer?

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Dear Michael -

I recently married my wife 8mths ago, it was a long distance relationship before we got married, then I moved across the ocean to be with her 3 days after we were married. We are a lesbian couple. But almost as soon as we were married I noticed a decline in our sex life.  lesbians not having sex

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Dear Michael -

I love my husband dearly, but what if I can't stand how he looks without his clothes. Please help. naked husband is repulsive

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Dear Michael -

I have a female colleague who is suffering from vaginismus - painful and overly tight vagina which does not allow proper penis penetration. Do you have any good solutions to that?  help with vaginismus

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Dear Michael -

I am most frisky when it is a full moon. I wonder why?  frisky full moon

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Dear Michael -

I am a female in my early 20's. I cannot get aroused. My blood almost never gets going (and when it does it doesn't last long) and I don't produce much of my own lubrication. can't get aroused

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Dear Michael -

Just want to know what you think about spanking and are there any other ladies interested in some amount of erotic pain in the normal world?  is spanking weird?

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Dear Michael -

May I ask if it is safe for him to suck my nipples quite strongly. Sometimes it hurts a little. I don't mind but I am worried it may cause breast cancer or something like that.  sucking nipples hard

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Dear Michael -

She always says, she makes love to me for me. She doesn't need any satisfaction. As your one letter said, men are ok with this from time to time, and you are right, but not
ALL the time. I want to make her orgasm but she don't want me too.  she has no sexual desires

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Dear Michael -

I had shared with him how I was starting to want sex less because he was nicer to me right after we had sex. Is that normal?  are men nicer after sex?

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Dear Michael -

My wife is hesitant to let me give her oral sex. The last time I did it, a couple of days later she got a urinary tract infection. She thinks the oral sex might have been the cause. Is this possible or likely? If so, what can I do to ensure it doesn't happen again? And, what can I do to convince my wife that it won't happen again?  urinary tract infection

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Dear Michael -

One question, I have is I am 23 but I am still technically a virgin. I have noticed people dont wait any more, they prefer if you are good in bed, Now I know I wont be good after the first few times, but after practice ill be great, but I would like to be great, is it better to wait or just go with the crowd.  virgin vs. experience

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Dear Michael -

I'm 28 yrs old and a mother of two boys aged 8 and 4. I'm a HR Manager and my husband a businessman my husband gets home everyday past midnight and he drinks on daily basis. I feel very lonely at times.

We only have sex when he needs it and it lasts for about 5 minutes. He does not even prepare me and at times its even painful...  should lonely wife take a lover?

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Dear Michael -

Recently after great sex in the living room, I fell asleep and woke up to find my husband watching porn on cable. He turned it off as soon as he realized I was awake and denied watching it. Then he admitted he frequently watches late night porn. But why after sex? He agreed the sex was great and shrugged his shoulders as to why. I kept calm so I could think it over, but I was shocked that I didn't know he's been watching this for years and to find him so engrossed after sex. Am I wrong to feel upset and that I somehow wasn't enough for him?  why porn after sex

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Dear Michael -

My husband and I have been married for 6 months we are both seniors he is 65 and I'm 57. He has tried Viagra and Cialis but neither one seem to help he seems sexually attracted to me and we do a lot of cuddling but he can not seem to maintain an erection. reasons men can't get an erection
 

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Dear Michael -

I recently found out that I am pregnant, and as my partner and I am getting ready for the baby, we are also excited that now we don't have to use birth control anymore. However... pregnant sex

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Dear Michael -

My wife & I have been married for 11 years now. We have had a good enough love life. But she began to put on weight. This does not bother me, because I love her regardless. I love the woman not just her body.

However, with the added weight came a distinctive odor that I find unpleasant when we are performing oral sex.  how to talk about smells down there

 

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Dear Michael -

...The last few times it has been really hard for him to become hard again even after waiting for a couple of hours... which leaves me frustrated at times...  problem getting an erection again

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Dear Michael -

My b/f and i have been together for a year and a half, in the beginning we had tons of sex... and i know that a lot of that had to do with lust, and although we still lust for each other we don't "go at it" as much as we did before. want more sex

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Dear Michael -

My girlfriend regularly has orgasms from intercourse. She also regularly has multiple orgasms from intercourse; sometimes needing to use two hands to count the number of times she orgasms in a single session. However, we recently had an experience that seems to contradict this.

During our second love making session of the day, regardless of what we tried or how long we kept trying, she was unable to even come close to having an orgasm. Could this be because she had multiple orgasms during both our earlier intercourse AND foreplay prior to love making session number two? too much sex?

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Dear Michael -

My man doesn't like pubic hair.  What is the best way to shave it? how to shave public hair

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Dear Michael -

My boyfriend subscribes to your messages and I decided to pose a question to you. One thing that worries me is often he will choose to masturbate after we finish and I am very pleased but annoyed that he does not 'give me the juice.'  Please comment on why masturbation has to a part of great sex Michael. masturbation instead of penetration

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Dear Michael -

I had a question. me and my husband have been married for over 16 years and lately the only time he's in the mood to have sex is after he watches a porn. he doesn't want to have sex any other time. and he has to watch it for at least 30 minutes before he can even get it up. I was wondering is there a reason for this? husbands porn addiction

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Dear Michael -

Am I supposed to feel it when he cums inside me?  feel the cum?

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Dear Michael -

My Husband loves to have oral sex but I m not able to satisfy him completely as I cant bear the smell.  I take it in my mouth just for few seconds b'coz of its smell.. plz help me so that we both enjoy oral sex.. improve blow job smell

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Dear Michael -

Hi my wife was wondering what you said about eating fruit (to change the taste of one's fluids). Specifically how long before and how much? fruit to change flavor

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Dear Michael -

I would like to ask you; as many men I'm worried about my size; what is really, really normal size when full power? Is it possible to add something by using vacuum pump ? My size is only 15,5 cm (6 inches) and I feel embarrassed when my girl see me naked without erection as it is rather small when not erected! What can I do? make penis bigger?

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Dear Michael -

Me and my boyfriend just started doing anal sex and it takes a lot longer for me than him to have an orgasm and he gets tired before we even finish is there a way I could get off faster or a better position that we could try? anal sex advice

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Dear Michael -

I read your answer to the ATM question. Can you please comment also on rimming or anallingus? Thanks!  rimming and anallingus advice

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Dear Michael -

My husband and I were watching that show about the lie detector test and the contestants can win money if they don't lie. Well, we tried to use that show to get us closer and learn more about each other. One of the questions was, unfortunately, Do you have a sexual experience in your past you would be embarrassed about if anyone found out?  How Much of My Sexual Past Should I Share?

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Dear Michael -

I wanted to ask u the question about porn women who have a guy do them anally then they or the other one in the three way sucks it on it some more.... Is Ass to Mouth safe?

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Dear Michael -

I have been married for almost 20 years (this August will be our 20th). Our sex life has been average, but nothing to write home about. She is not the type to try new things and when it comes to doing anything - it is generally I am on top or sometimes she is on top. She does not like any oral sex, even though I love it and would go down on her anytime she wanted. I get oral sex about once a year and if I am lucky it might be 3 times in a year. I have purchased small vibrators for her and she just ends up throwing them away. I have also tried to bring in dice and other ways to try and spice things up with out any success. how to get her in the mood

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Dear Michael -

I love it when my hubby sucks my clit. I have found out that most times, after he sucks me, I develop itching and discomfort. It usually ends up in candidiasis (yeast infection) since I know the symptoms. What do I do since this is the surest way to turn me on? yeast infections from oral sex?

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Dear Michael -

I come a little too quickly and then loose my erection soon there after. Then I not able to get it back at least not right away, which frustrates her (she wants me to last longer or be able to come a second time).

I am 46 with no major health issues, although I could be in better shape then I am. I am under some stress. Can you give me some advise? premature ejaculation

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Dear Michael -

I would like to know this. Are there 2 types of orgasms for women?... a clitoral and a vaginal orgasm? Types of Female Orgasms

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Dear Michael -

My question is about Gspot orgasms. My partner is wonderful in bed and knows how to please me so much that has even given me Gspot orgasms. My question is where in the female body does all that fluid come from, what is it made up of and, why is there so much? How much is there anyways. I have heard that it can up to 2 litres is that correct? Female Ejaculation

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Dear Michael -

My fiance likes when I lick her feet for obvious reasons. However, sometimes they are salty, sometimes they taste (no lie) like well seasoned chicken (a bit of Parmesan taste). One time, they actually tasted sweet. Now, I've read and seen those reports about how some pads can take chemicals from your body and put them on the (foot) pads. In the same way that cum can be changed according to what is eaten, would it also apply for the soles of feet? Changing Taste of Feet

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Dear Michael -

I've been thinking about writing you for months, and I just can't stand it anymore. I love my husband dearly, but what if I can't stand how he looks without his clothes? Not Attracted to My Husband

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Dear Michael -

Can you suggest the best position for sex during pregnancy.

I'm 7+ month pregnant and has started to feel uncomfortable with the usual position which is woman on top. After a few thrust, I always feel like I need to urinate. Sex Positions When Pregnant

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Dear Michael -

Is there a way you can increase your ejaculate (semen) volume? My partner likes it when the volume is greater. Increase Volume of Semen

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Dear Michael -

My husband has always had a hard time ejaculating. He says that he gets close but then it just goes away.... Ejaculation Advice

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Dear Michael -

I do not have an orgasm and if he does do oral pleasure on me.... How to Orgasm

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Dear Michael -

My husband has been very blessed in that area so I have NEVER given him a blow job because I can not fit it into my mouth...  Blow Jobs for Large Penises

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Dear Michael -

Please help. My marriage of 3 years is in turmoil. My husband has been using porn for his own reasons and all I get is "it's not you - its me".  Internet Porn Addiction

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Dear Michael -

I have an ongoing worry about trying to please my wife.

She seems to stay very 'in control' of her feelings. When we are making love she is very focused on me, eyes open always watching, and wants to make sure I have a good time, but she never just seems to relax and allow herself to be pleasured or excited about what we're doing. Any tips on how I can encourage her to allow herself to close her eyes, get into her own thoughts and feelings, and be pleased and aroused by our lovemaking in the same way that she does for me? Pleasing Your Wife

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Dear Michael -
 

I need some help. I married this woman who is younger then me. She is great in bed but she says she can be a lot better if I talk dirty to her. Tell me some of things I should say to her. How to talk dirty to a woman

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Dear Michael -

...We haven't done anything in the bedroom for about 6 weeks. Do you have any help/advice on how to make HER desire sex more often? why she is not in the mood

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Dear Michael -

I wanna know is it ok to play with yourself...?  Is masturbation morally wrong?

 

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Dear Michael -

Do women make noises while making love in reality or it is only shown in x rated movies? making noise while making love

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Dear Michael -

Is it safe to have sex while your on your period? I have heard a guy can get blood or clots stuck inside his penis, is this true? safe to have sex during period?

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Dear Michael -

We are having a hard time having him come during intercourse.  It can go 30-45 minutes and I will end up having to stop and put lotion on his penis and make it cum with my hand.  He is around 300 lbs and not very big so positions can be difficult for us.  I usually ride on top of him and change to the cowboy position which after 30-45 minutes can be very tiring on my legs.  Any suggestions on positions that may work for us? best positions for overweight

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Dear Michael -

My friends have had sex but they say it does not feel as good using condoms.  Is it true that you do not get the maximum pleasure when you use condoms? condom questions

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Dear Michael -

I have a problem that I would like to share and am just embarrassed to see the doc about. I have an issue with precum. Whenever I am with my girlfriend, I dont even have to do anything sexual with her, simply by just holding her i feel my precum come out. Its actually very frustrating because I fear my sensitivity will cause further problems later. What is your take on my problem and any advice you have as to how I can solve it? precum problem

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Dear Michael -

My girlfriends vagina smells awful sometimes to the point where I want nothing to do with it. This makes it very difficult to give any oral or any form of pleasure at all. Do you have any tips on how it can be fixed? why vaginas smell

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Dear Michael -

Also, if he's "going down on me," I feel really weird & guilty just laying there. What should I do: close my eyes, or watch him?... how to respond during cunnilingus

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Dear Michael -

How come some men have an ejaculate that smells so strong that makes me nauseous. By having a vasectomy would that solve the problem? I was married to this man for several years but, could not stand making love with him because of that strong smell.

I have a wonderful men now and there are no smell whatsoever...but has had a vasectomy. Could it be because of their diet?  ejaculate smell and taste

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Dear Michael -

I was a 49 year old virgin to my man. I picked him and I don't regret my choice and I'm quite sure that he was thrilled also. We only slept together 3 time and neither one of those time was it painful. The only thing is that I didn't get that tingle in my body or an orgasm to go with it. Now keep in mind that I was 49 on my 1st try with a man. We slept together two times afterwards and I still didn't get that tingling sensation. Is this normal for the body to react this way and then eventually it will kick in? I get horny just thinking about sex but when I am into it I get nothing. help for women who can't orgasm

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Dear Michael -

My man and I have been together for nearly a year now, and I really want to pleasure him orally, but he finds oral sex disgusting. He doesn't like the idea of kissing me after my mouth has been "down there" on him. Can I make him want oral sex?... blow job advice

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Dear Michael -

I am a virgin, not quite the 40 year old virgin but close enough. I am engaged to be married and could use some advice on what I can do to prepare my body for intercourse, most especially my vagina.

I'll just tell you now, my greatest fear is fit....  fear of large penis

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Dear Michael -

I have caught my husband masturbating in the shower. I thought we had a really good sex life. I give him blow jobs from time to time and am always available for him. Am I not doing something I should be?  Why men masturbate.

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Dear Michael -

My uterus (or pelvis, I can't remember which one the doctor said.) is tilted and I have a problem with pushing him out while I am having an orgasm. Sometimes it seems like he is longer and larger than at others is this possible?  Tilted Uterus?
 

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Dear Michael -

I'm 33 years old man and married for 2 years. Suddenly some days ago I came to know that my wife is masturbating in the middle of day while I'm in the office. But we have our regular sex 4 to 5 times in a week... why women masturbate.

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Dear Michael -

What do you do when the urges for sex have died. I am 50 and am going through menopause. Though my husband says he doesn't need sex as much any more either I am very disappointed that my sex drive is hardly there anymore. I am on Paxil and my husband thinks that may have killed my desires. Please help. low sex drive advice

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Dear Michael -

How do I increase the size of my penis? penis enlargement answer here

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Dear Michael -

How do I increase the size of my breasts? breast enlargement answer here

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Dear Michael -

I have been married for 4 and a half years and have 2 children. My problem is that while having sex i go unusually wet which kills both our desire... get too wet

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Dear Michael -

I don't feel as beautiful as I once was & I have low self confidence & it's been 2 years since I had my first child & my spouse says "I'd rather be with a fat chick that wakes up and says she's beautiful every morning than with a hot chick that thinks she isn't beautiful" - any tips for that?

I use most of your tips but do you have any that would help me feel sexy or that would help heat things up for me? lovemaking confidence

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Dear Michael -

I'm a healthy, active 21 year old female who is getting frustrated with my body. I've never orgasmed ever.... women who cant orgasm

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Dear Michael -

I'm writing to ask if you have any advice on how to change a bad habit I
have about one part of my "intimate behavior".  I'm using a euphemism there
to hopefully avoid any spam filters.

When I was a younger man, in my late teens, I would find that my "release"
would come too quickly, leaving my partner a bit dismayed.  I found that if
I thought could add thoughts about other things (work, television shows,
etc.) that my release didn't arrive so soon and I could satisfy my partner
before culminating my part in the intimate process.  That experiment became
a habit and is quite automatic now.

Now that I am a few decades older, that habit is getting in the way.... how to cum faster

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Dear Michael -

I've been married for eight months now, and my husband has not gone down on me. When I ask about it he says it's his culture, "Jamaican men don't go down". What can I do? why black men dont go down
 

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Dear Michael -

I have recently been engaged (less than a month), and both me and my fiance are virgins. We have started fooling around but we agreed that we'll save the sex till we're married.

The problem is that i haven't been able to have an orgasm till now and I'm getting a bit worried since I don't know if this is normal or not, especially since we're having oral sex and he uses his hands. When he does use his hands, its ok at the beginning but then it kinds of starts hurting after a while. The thing is, I used to masturbate before and i did have orgasms!

He doesn't seem to have the same problem though. Is there something wrong with me? or is it him? Do you have any suggestions or advice that can help me out here? click here

 

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Dear Michael -

I do not perform oral on my girl too frequently as she usually prefers to go directly to intercourse. When I do, my tongue usually is sore for a few days afterward. Do you have any suggestions for managing the pain, shy of giving oral more often? tongue sore from oral sex

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Dear Michael -

I am a woman that has problems having an orgasm during sex without using "toys". Do you have any suggestions that might help? cant orgasm without toys

 

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Dear Michael -

What positions will allow me to delay my orgasm/ejaculation? how to delay ejaculation

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Dear Michael -

Recently, I was "in the mood", but as I had my period, my husband felt that it would not be a good idea. His comment / concern was that it would make my period worse, or last longer, due to the stimulation of penetration. Do you think this is the case? Would penetration stimulate and worsen the monthly bleed? sex during period

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Dear Michael -

I've heard there is a difference between having an orgasm and cumming? for both men & women.. Is there? orgasm vs cumming

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Dear Michael -

I just have a question, is there any particular time to have sex. some say we can have sex after the cycle and also before the cycle. So if we have sex during those days then my girlfriend will not get pregnant. How true is it? does the rhythm method work

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Dear Michael -

I am not sure if this is common or not, but my partner told me that my nipples have a distinct taste. He didn't say it was "bad," but I can tell that it is and that it would be more enjoyable for him, as well as for me, if this wasn't an issue. I was wondering if you have any ideas on how I can either change something I'm doing to make them naturally taste better or if there is anything I can use to cover up the taste. ... taste of my nipples

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Dear Michael -

I have an issue with having a dry mouth, I am on several medicines and I they contribute to this problem. My partner and I thoroughly enjoy oral sex, but I always seem to not be able to produce enough saliva to ensure his satisfaction. ... dry mouth ....................................

Dear Michael -

Why is it that all men I've been with (including my husband) are fascinated with trying to do anal?  anal sex fascination

Thanks,
B.

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Dear Michael -

My husband is rarely in the mood anymore. We used to make love about once a week but now it is every two or three months. Its not that he is against it he just says that he's tired. What can I do? husband not in the mood

Thanks,
Sherry
 

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Dear Michael -

I'm hoping you can help with an issue with me and my husband. The issue is that he loves oral sex (as a receiver and giver). The problem is that my jaw was injured in a car accident and it's painful for me to do the giving to him. My jaw was dislocated and I had to have surgery to reconstruct the joint. Is there something I can do for him that would feel similar to the "real thing"? I feel bad that he's missing out on something he loves so much. oral sex help

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Dear Michael -


I recently had a baby and my husband and I have tried twice. And both times it was painful and he was premature. sex after having a baby

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Dear Michael -

I seem to have a problem that i can never find anything written about in books or on the web. Most places I find info about men who prematurely ejaculate, but my problem seems to be just the opposite. I last WAAYY too long for my partners.... last too long

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Dear Michael -

My wife and I are looking to experience something new and we had both decided we want to try anal sex. The only thing is... anal sex advice

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Michael-

Recently I remarried and find that my new husband's sexual techniques are less than desirable. bad sex

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Michael-

My fiance and I are getting married soon, and we are one of those odd throwbacks who actually have saved sex for marriage. We... first time sex advice

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Dear Michael:

My husband has recently grown out a goatee and I am really struggling with it. I've always found him SO sexy... facial hair problem

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Dear Michael:

I would like to ask your opinion. I would like to see if you can give me your opinion on men and women instigating sex. Should.... initiating sex

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Dear Michael:

Hi, may I ask what is the best position for sex that... best sex positions.

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Dear Michael:

I'm a mother of three all under five years. My problem is I'm growing tired of my husband. From the time we wedded his main focus is.... tired of sex

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Dear Michael:

This may not be in your area of "expertise", but before we can get
very far at this point is dealing with vaginal dryness.... vaginal dryness

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Dear Michael:

I asked my husband about shaving "down there" and he said... genital shaving ................................

Michael:

Do men really insist that you swallow when giving head?... do I have to swallow

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Dear Michael -

This totally baffles me: I've always been satisfied with my sexual relationship with my husband, that is, the quality of our lovemaking. He's told me many a time how much he loves our loving. The issue we're having is that neither one of us are happy with how often we're having sex, and we both keep saying how we need to change that part of our lives, but we just haven't had a momentum.

Part of the problem is neither one of us are good at being aggressors or initiators unless we're having one of those "I want you now!" moments. How can we keep a flow going? Once or twice a month is just not cutting it, and I want to take advantage of our hormones and reproductive abilities while we still have them. I refuse to believe it
just comes with age or having been married a certain length of time. Please keep me anonymous, if you should desire to publish this. Thank you for your input.  not enough sex

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Dear Michael:

This may not be in your area of "expertise", but before we can get very far at this point is dealing with vaginal dryness. We are in our young sixties, in good health and physical condition and would like to rekindle the spark from our earlier years, but have not been able to overcome the dryness.

Lubricants, the most obvious remedy, do not hold up and she experiences physical discomfort to the extent that she is not often open to intercourse, and by association, turned off by other intimacies, which in the past usually led to sexual intercourse. On the advice of her physician some time ago, she discontinued taking hormones, which worked great. Any suggestions? I am dying to use some of your techniques.  vaginal dryness solutions

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Dear Michael:

I would really like to try new things in bed with my wife but I'm afraid she will think I am a pervert or have been messing around if I suggest some new things. How can I bring up the subject where she won't think I'm sex-obsessed? try new things

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Dear Michael:

My husband and I have sex approximately twice a week. Nine out of 10 times we have sex he comes before I do and and leaves me hanging. I have encouraged him to use his fingers or tongue but I get nothing. He will ask me to give him a few minutes and we can go again and this has not worked because the 2nd time around he doesn't get hard enough to satisfy me so I am let down twice. Is there anything I can do to help him last longer and be harder? I want to suggest Viagra or Levitra but I don't want to crush his manhood.  Should ladies cum first?

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Dear Michael:

Hubby and I made a 'pinky promise' (moreso me than him) to have sex every Tuesday - that lasted 2 weeks... this was MONTHS ago.  how to get husband interested in sex

 

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Dear Michael:

I would like to have chat sex with my husband for our next date, but I am not sure how to do it. My problem is we have only one computer and we can only sign on with my cell phone. I know about places like library, etc, but a bit public, obviously! Any suggestions outside of buying a second computer and another sign on method??!!  how to have an online sex chat

 

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Dear Michael:

I'm 23 and i have never cum or had an orgasm. i've grown clueless and frustrated of what to do to help myself achieve this. I have yet to reach that boiling point from oral sex or intercourse. my b/f has been very patient and willing to help but still nothing, i know there can be great sex without a climax but can u please give me some tips on what i can do, eat, take, or try that will help me to climax. how to have an orgasm