Dear Michael -


I just had a query if you don’t mind to answer. I am 51-year-old gentleman. I have 27 years happy married life. I would love deep intense kissing. However, my spouse does not encourage me nor allows me that act. What could be possible solution to get that pleasure? I hope you won't take this as some indecent or vulgar query. I am asking just out
of interest...

- Anonymous

Dear Anonymous -

Some women don't enjoy deep kissing if their partner's have
thick mustaches or beards. If you have facial hair, keep it trimmed. Oral hygiene is also a MUST. Brush and use mouthwash. A clean mouth is an oh so sexy mouth! :-)

If she seems to have some aversion to deep french kissing,
start with some of these techniques:
Kiss her forehead, slowly move down her cheeks, to her chin,
down her neck and across her collar bone. Totally ignoring her mouth at first. Take your time... there's no need to rush the foreplay. It may be that she needs a little more "warm up time" before she relaxes enough to have you start kissing her lips and to respond with deep kissing you back.

Also, another intimate move is to place both hands on either
side of her face as you kiss her. Look into her eyes when you
are kissing her face and tell her how beautiful she is and how
much kissing those perfect lips turns you on.

I've also heard women complain of their men going straight for the kiss and twirling their tongues around in their mouths SO fast that they feel like they are making out with a blender on HIGH speed. TOO MUCH TONGUE can be bad ... and likewise ... the ABSENCE OF TONGUE with an open mouth is just as inadequate for a highly erotic kiss.

Try licking your wife's lips lightly while hey are closed.
Then try sucking on them without putting your tongue in her mouth.  When you do get to her open mouth, you can suck easily on her tongue - mimicking the slow methodical
sucking of how you'd want her to be sucking on your cock.

Every part of her body is meant to be kissed. (back of her neck, down her spine, her wrists ... seriously... EVERY PART) and don't be afraid to kiss these parts open mouthed and with your tongue.

So start with the other parts ... showing her your attention to all her other locations and then work your way up to her mouth.

TiKi

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Congratulations on your 27 years of marriage. It's apparent you love and care for your wife. My first suggestion may sound silly, but when trying to be intimate with her, be sure you've taken special care of your mouth-brushed, flossed, rinsed with mouthwash, you get the idea. She may have been turned off of kissing because of some unrealized breath odor-it could even be her own breath, oral freshness/cleanliness, that has her turned off of kissing.

Certainly after so many years of marriage, you should be able to discuss this with her, though not during an intimate time. Just sometime out of the blue, let her know that you have something you fantasize about that you'd like to share with her. I'm almost sure she will be relieved to hear that it's about passionate kissing, rather than something really wild. You will need to make sure she doesn't have some type of aversion to kissing or oral germs, etc. (Don't take a garlic tablet that day!)

Hopefully, she is going to have no problem with kissing and just hasn't realized that you even cared about kissing after all these years. I've been married over 22 years and we definitely don't do as much kissing as we did while dating and the early years of our marriage.

Usually one spouse seems to miss it more than the other one, I think we just get lazy sometimes and forget that those passionate kisses are really fun and important for getting in the mood. She may also be worried that passionate kissing will lead to more, when she's not really feeling in the mood.

I'm sure once you two begin more kissing, the mood will follow, but don't pressure her, just let her know you're desire. I imagine any woman that's been happily married for 27 years, is willing to do her best to please her loving husband. Best wishes for another happy and blessed 27 years.

Roxanne

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