~Feeling Beautiful At Last

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I understand exactly how she feels. I grew up with a very low if not almost zero self esteem. I grew up being called "ugly duckling" or "Yoda" as a little girl. The "boys" who are now "men" always wanted to beat me up. One of my childhood friends always literally stepped in front of me to protect me from being beaten up all the time.

However, once I became a Christian, I learned that it's not about self-esteem; it's about Christ Esteem. I also learned that once you become a Christian and are under the Blood of Christ, you are ROYALTY!!!!

In other words, I am a PRINCESS; I am ROYALTY!!! That was the biggest and best "self-esteem" booster of all! I am the daughter of the KING OF KINGS! That makes me a princess.

You see, I've learned over the years that TRUE SELF-ESTEEM comes from God!!! I don't know if she's a Christian or not, but this song attached I dedicate to her and to ALL little girls and woman struggling and not seeing their "inner" beauty. She also needs to be taught "feminine grace."

How ironic, the one who was rejected by the "boys" and was told would NEVER marry, ends up being married 15 years coming up, March 28, 2008.

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I have a tip that's going to seem a bit strange for the poor woman who had her baby and doesn't feel beautiful, but it truly does help.  She needs to go to Flylady.net.  This website encourages people to FLY (Finally Love Yourself).  She has helped thousands (including me) who haven't felt beautiful or motivated.  It may seem, on the surface, to be only about cleaning your house, but it is really about embracing who you are and the amazing abilities that you have.  Please recommend this to her.
 

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Make it a habit to smile, every chance you get. It will actually make you feel happy, which will also make you feel pretty.

Look in the mirror and admire your good features. No fair focusing on the ones you don't like. If you have gorgeous green eyes, say, "Look at my gorgeous green eyes." It's not wrong to love and accept yourself; in fact, it helps you love others more.

Deepen your character. Nothing feels more beautiful than writing a note to a shut-in, visiting someone in a nursing home or hospital, or helping a child who's having trouble learning to read.
 

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I think there are alot of things that make a woman beautiful. The most important thing to remember is that you are loved by the creator of the universe. And by not loving yourself and appreciating the things that God has given you, you are telling the being that created you that his design isn't good enough. Remember that your husband married you for a reason, and it wasn't just looks. He has to think that you are an amazing person which is a combination of your personality, appearance, and who you are as a whole! Be proud of who you are and the things that you have accomplished, there is no reason, as long as you take care of yourself, to think less of you.

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Well, I have had 3 children and am probably approximately 40 - 50lbs overweight.

Feeling Sexy was a huge issue for me, especially since I have been a single parent for many, many years.

I found that little strategic things helped me feel more confident and certainly more sexy as the days went on.

1. Accentuate what you feel is your best feature. Personally, I have quite large breasts, and wearing slightly low cut tops on a semi-regular basis definitely boosted my self esteem. Even if people looking at you do not comment on how you look, the little peeks to the "Accentuated" features definitely put a bounce in my step.

2. Spend time getting reacquainted with your body. Having a child is one of the most wonderful experiences any person can have. Your body is not broken after, but, more mature for having the experience. Spend time with your husband touching each other so you can figure out what makes your blood pump now. It will be different than before you had your child, so learning all over again is definitely a way to feel more comfortable with yourself and with each other.

3. He still thinks your beautiful, you should too. Let him show you that, he's your husband, your man, your soul mate, and your lover. Regular touching, (doesn't even have to be sexual), hand holding, kissing, taking them time for each other is the most important part of a relationship. Getting caught up in baby mode will keep you parents first, lovers next. He's not a different guy than the one you married, don't forget to cuddle, and spend time falling in love again, I guarantee your lack of sexiness feeling will fade more quickly than you think.
 

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As a man, I know that we say what we think sometimes, not always thinking about how we say it. My wife has always been thin and petite. She had our first child two years ago in March, and she’s still got some extra weight from the pregnancy. I think its beautiful, a testament if you will of her labor. It speaks volumes to me that she loves me and our child enough to put her body through such a change. I try as often I can to tell her how beautiful she is. Like your husband, I want to be with my wife because she is comfortable in her own skin. Beauty is different between men and women. What you see as undesirable, may be the opposite of your husbands few.

Don’t take offense at what or how your husband speaks sometimes, but what he means. By what you say it seems that he wants to be with you, no matter what you look like, as long as your happy. If you have some extra weight and happy, then he’s happy for you and with you. If you decide to shed those pounds, and you’re happy. Then again he’s happy.

I am a Pastor in Knoxville, TN and I have told many people that we need to be happy with ourselves before we can be happy for others. Make yourself happy, pamper yourself. If your husband really loves you, He will be happy right along with you.

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I am a plus sized female, and struggle with low self esteem/confidence. Love... Making is often difficult for me, because I too struggle with not feeling beautiful. However, I have found that when I buy nice "nighties" that fit me correctly, they boost my confidence, and I do feel beautiful. Especially when I see the look on my husbands face the first time he sees me in my new outfit.