Dear Lovemaking Answers:

I feel terribly embarrassed by my terribly sagged boobs. I hate looking at myself in the mirror, the nighties I love to wear, cannot fit, my hubby surely feels bad about the boobs as he wishes to feel them the way I wish.

We have 5 kids all breast fed and don't wish for more kids.

Any help to bring them back to position?

Thank you
Troubled Joy


Dear Troubled Joy ~:

I have given birth to 10 kids, all of them have been been breastfed, or I have pumped, so I feel ya! The 'girls' are not sitting where they used to when I was in my 20s. Part of it is age, and we have to accept the fact that we will never have the wet t-shirt winning boobs of our youth. And breastfeeding does take a toll too. You mention that your husband 'surely feels bad about the boobs' but you don't actually say he wants them to look like they did before you had kids.

I bet he loves you just the way you are - he has loved you enough that you have had five kids after all! Sometimes we are our own worst critic. Just last night I was lamenting to my own husband that gravity has had a field day with my boobs and he looked at me and said, "You are the sexiest woman I know, and I love you just the way you are." If your husband says things like that to you, believe him - he is NOT just saying it to make you feel better, he really means it. Of course you want to be sexy and feel desirable, and if breast surgery is not an option there are a few things you can do.

First off, you may want to look for different lingerie - there are some very sexy lingerie lines that provide support in the right place, while still making you look desirable. I know I have found some really nice pieces at bra stores, and department stores. Look for something with underwire that provides a natural lift. Trust me, when you use something like that, your husband is not going to care that once your breasts are released from the lingerie that they sag.

There are some exercises you can do to help support the breast tissue. Remember, your breasts do not have muscles, they are comprised of tissue, but you can build the muscles behind the breasts which might help.

The first one is a chest press - and you can do this at home: Lie on your back with two dumbbells in either hand. Push the dumbbells in both hands away from your chest until your arms are straight, lower the weights back down until they are a few inches away from your chest. Do three sets of 10 reps, take a break for one minute and repeat this two more times taking a break for one minutes between each set.

Another one that helps is a chest fly. Lie on your back with light weights and hold them away from your body, just like when you're doing the chest press. Now slowly lower the weights out to your sides instead of lowering them. Now simply raise the weights back to the start position.

Swimming is a fantastic way to build the muscles around your chest and reduce any fat, resulting in a firmer looking chest. In fact, any kind of exercise will help.

During the day wear a bra that provides maximum lift and support - that alone will go a long way in helping you feel better about them.

You are the sum of your parts, not just a sum of your breasts. Stop focusing on the one area that you feel is the worst. Again, I am sure your husband does not focus on just your boobs when you are making love - he loves you totally. And you have done something that some women might never get to do - you have birthed and nurtured five children. Be proud of your body - it has worked hard!

Here are some more great tips on fixing your sagging breasts.

Cori

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Victoria has a secret and you should try it out too! You just need some bras and nighties with underwire and padding to create the lift you need.

Short of breast implants - and it sounds like possibly a
breast lift - and lets not forget that this involves surgery that holds true risks.

Your husband probably does not view your breasts  terribly saggy, but knows you've fed, loved and nurtured his 5 children and he loves you the way you are.

To make you feel better about how you look in lingerie
and swimsuits though, I would suggest that you find a good bra fitter and play up the other parts of your body you feel the most confident about.

TiKi

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As a man whose wife nursed our 2 children (for 3 years each) I am so grateful for the amazing gift she gave to our children.  I still love my "play toys" and it doesn't bother me in the least that their shape is a bit different.

Michael

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My girl has had twins. Recently, she has been asking me the same question. I didn't know how to answer, so I sent her to Yahoo Answers. A few days later, she had gotten the answer to exercise. Push-ups, sit-ups, and the like tone that abdomen and chest area of your muscles. If you want to lift weights but don't have the time or money to invest in them, you can take an empty milk gallon container and use it either with water or sand.

When standing, take a gallon in each hand and raise your arms to shoulder level and hold your arms out straight, forming a "T" with your torso and arms. Next, bring your arms together in front of you, and then pull them to your chest. Finally, allow your arms to slowly drop down until your arms are limp. Repeat 5 times and then take a 30 second break. Do 5 repetitions of this before taking a 10 minute break. Be sure to drink water afterward simply because you will have stimulated your heart and no doubt, done some extra breathing. Hydrate!

Another similar exercise is to bend to a half-way (or 45 degree angle) and simply pull the gallon containers to your chest, hold for five seconds and then slowly lower them. You should feel a pulling on your pectorals (which would be right under your boobs), as well as your upper arm. If it starts burning, you're building muscle. If your skin begins to turn red, it's time to stop. It's called conditioning, and you don't want to overdo it.

~Norm
 

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