Dear Sex Answers:

I have learned so much from your tips and when I try some of them out on my husband he is so amazed, wondering where I get my inspiration. I have not yet satisfied his curiosity.

But I have a question. I have this desire sometimes for him to spank me on my bottom during foreplay. I generally am not the masochist type but Ii usually feel that alternately spanking and caressing stimulates some nerves down there which do not come alive otherwise. When I first asked him to do it, he was kind of embarrassed and I have since felt I am weird. Just want to know what you think about that and are there any other ladies interested in some amount of erotic pain in the normal world?

Thanks,
Anea




Dear Anea -

Playful spanking gives quick shocks of stimulation and increases arousal. Lots of people enjoy things like spanking, pinching nipples, pulling hair, sucking and light biting. All fun things with your lover in a safe environment!

"Erotic Pain" though to me has on a whole new meaning - whether it's hot wax, domination, bondage or beyond, I don't put that in the same category as spanking and caressing which is more playful than painful... and anything but weird.

:-)

TiKi

Anea -

You are far from weird.  Even a lot of guys enjoy some spanking now and again.  Think about guys sports teams in the locker room who playfully smack each other on the butt.  If it was truly painful, you'd see more locker room fights. 

The tingling sensation from a firm smack on the ass can be electrifying for some.  Give your guy a little spank on his rear and he'll likely return the favor.

- Michael


Dear Anea-

Good for you to be open with your husband about what you like in the bedroom. Too often couples keep their desires to themselves for fear of embarrassing themselves or their significant other.

I think you would be surprised at the number of men and women who get pleasure from a light spanking on the bottom. You’re right it does stimulate nerve endings and create a pleasurable feeling – nothing wrong with that! You are not alone in that feeling.

As you ask for it more often he should become more comfortable with the idea, as long as you don’t push him to do things he is not comfortable with. You’ll find the more the two of you do it, when the mood is right, the more pleasurable the two of you will find it. Obviously, as you said, you are not a masochist, and as long as boundaries are set, you will both be fine. And you are completely normal!

Cori
 

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