Dear Michael -

I have a problem that I would like to share and am just embarrassed to see the doc about. I have an issue with precum. Whenever I am with my girlfriend, I dont even have to do anything sexual with her, simply by just holding her I feel my precum come out. Its actually very frustrating because I fear my sensitivity will cause further problems later. What is your take on my problem and any advice you have as to how I can solve it?

Thanks alot

TZ

Dear TZ. -

I've got good news for you.  You are completely normal.  This happens to a lot of guys at your stage in life.  There is absolutely nothing you should be concerned about.

Some guys have very little precum and some guys have so much you would think they had an orgasm. 

Your sensitivity might indicate that you will have a challenge with premature ejaculation although there are ways to deal with that.  

Reader's responses:

I'm not sure about your concern or embarrassment with precum.

As a woman, I can tell you that I find precum incredibly hot.
It let's me know I'm definitely having the effect on you that I'm aiming for, beyond just an erection.

It's also fantastic lube for when things get to that point.
:-)
Tina

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To hear that a guy is embarrassed about precum is actually a bit astonishing. Your body is responding normally and you think it's a bad idea? Your body is creating a natural lubricant for what often happens next. In fact, you can let your partner know that even non-sexual actions turn you on intensely when you are around her. It is a huge turn on for women to
know that they aren't the only one that gets wet just by being around certain guys.

I'd say it's a social "misused" idea that anything to do with sex is a bad idea. I am a Christian and have a firm belief that God created sex to be fun. Why else would the book in the Bible ''Song of Solomon'' be so sexually explicit to rival some emails that often end up in your SPAM box? All those things that happen to a man and woman are normal and in fact created and designed to work like that.

While I haven't saved myself for marriage as I wanted to, my current girlfriend finds it a huge turn-on for me to say that I am wet to the point that there is a visual wet spot on my underwear. Don't hold back with what you got. Chances are, your partner won't hold back for you either!