Dear Michael -

I come a little too quickly and then loose my erection soon there after. Then I not able to get it back at least not right away, which frustrates her (she wants me to last longer or be able to come a second time).

I am 46 with no major health issues, although I could be in better shape then I am. I am under some stress. Can you give me some advise?

Thanks,
Michael

Dear Michael -

When you are 46 you (and your lady) must come to grips that you will not be able to perform like you were 25.  Multiple orgasms in the same night aren't entirely realistic for most men past 45 (or for a lot of men of any age).

But, in some ways, you will actually perform better. 

It appears that your main problem is with coming too quickly (premature ejaculation). She is most concerned with you being able to pleasure her before you ejaculate and become a wet noodle. Here are some tips that might help you.

* Use a condom - it will cut down on the sensitivity, helping you last longer

* Try a numbing cream make specifically for that purpose

* Masturbate several hours or a day before you know you will have intercourse.  It will relieve the pressure a bit. 

* Try the woman on top position which will make it easier for her to orgasm while helping you last longer

In addition to those tips you can teach yourself to delay your orgasm.  Most men have taught themselves to come quickly with masturbation and likewise they can teach themselves to last much, much longer.

It is a pretty rigid system to follow (although I don't think many men will complain about *having* to masturbate) but it will give men the capability to orgasm (or not orgasm) whenever they want to.  And in many circumstances the techniques learned will help men to be able to have more powerful orgasms than they ever had. Check out this source on premature ejaculation.

Reader's responses:

In order to maintain that erection long enough for your wife to
reach her own satisfaction level, you might try the following
which is very helpful to me, as a woman.

Though not every session should be the same, it's important
to make sure she gets satisfied first on many occasions so that she's not left feeling as if, "well, he got his, is finished and ready to go to sleep and I'm just getting warmed up!"  lol.

All of us women want to be able to get our men rock hard and even aroused again quickly if the first round is over too fast for us. If cumming a 2nd time is not easily achieved, I'd like to suggest you try the following technique:

When you are hard and inside her, try switching from vaginal
penetration to going back down on her.

It will help delay your orgasm and give her some more needed attention, which will often result in another one for her. 

Switch back and forth between vaginal and giving her oral pleasure, each time switching up positions a bit so that even though you may only cum one time, the experience that she's left with is what a great time you had and the variety of the encounter.  -  Tina